As parents raise children, many will ask “Is my child normal?” or “What child behaviors are considered normal?” The answers are not always clear cut because there are so many factors, such as the child’s age, the personality of the child, and the social and emotional dynamics surrounding of the child. Fortunately, doctors and specialists know so much about the different types of child behaviors and have come up with guidelines for parents and caregivers to follow and turn to when certain behaviors manifest themselves. Although these guidelines are not intended to be “gospel”, they can be very helpful in informing and enlightening parents on different child behaviors and the best ways parents can help and assist their children. The following are two examples of child behaviors and what parents can do to help their child work through the behavior.

Temper Tantrums

Temper tantrums are a common child behavior that starts as the child continues to learn, grow and develop. The older the child gets, the more independent and opinionated they become; in spite of this, they are still children and have to know there are boundaries and limits to the things they can do. It is important for parents to be consistent and firm in dealing with this behavior. If a child has learned the habit of tantrums to get his way, there are a few things parents can do change this behavior for the best. First, be aware of the situations and events that trigger a temper tantrum. State your instructions in a calm but firm way. If the child chooses to throw a temper tantrum, stand by and be available, but don’t give in or talk to the child until he/she is finished. After the child has calmed down, it is important for parents to restate and reinforce their instructions and expectations. Again, consistently and “tough love” are the key.

Childhood Lying

Because being honest and trustworthy are such important characteristics to have and obtain in our society today, it is crucial to teach young children these same principals and fundamentals. Lying can start at a very young age and happens for a few reasons. Some of the obvious motives for this child behavior is to avoid punishment or stressful situations. Attention seeking or a cry for help may also be the objective of why children take part in this behavior. There are a few things parents can do when their children lie or exaggerate the truth. First, if children are merely role playing or imagining different things as they play or interact with their friends, it is usually okay and not considered serious. A lighthearted approach can be taken as parents remind their child the difference between real and fantasy. If lying becomes compulsive and habitual, parents may need to take more precaution in how they react to this behavior. Consequences and punishments should be enforced whenever the child participates in this behavior. Likewise, rewards and incentives should be given when the child tells the truth. This lets them know that lying is never the right solution and telling the truth, even if it’s difficult at times, is always the best policy. These important lessons will help children later down the road when the consequences of lying become more serious.